Last night my dear friends, Diana and Risa, rescued me from my depression by having a raw potluck at Diana's home. It was a wonderful effort that I so appreciated. I go back more than a decade with both of them, so it was easy conversation and lots of raw food. A few other guests were also present and we had such a good time that I really didn't want to come home. My two friends had decided that it would be good for us to do this on a monthly basis and rotate the hostessing duties going forward. This decision came right about the time Joseph was diagnosed with cancer, so I really didn't have much of a part in planning the first event other than to say "great idea...run with it!" I threw my hat over the wall and said I would host the next one in January. I have no idea how things will be with my husband by then, but it would be nice to have friends over for New Year's.
Last night's fare included zucchini and spaghetti squash noodles with pesto sauce, collard burritos with a cheesy sauce, kale chips, salsa, crudites with a sunflower seed pate, a kale salad, pomegranate pudding, and raw pumpkin pie with a whipped topping. It was all so good that even the non-raw foodists in the bunch seemed to really enjoy it.
I was so happy to have this diversion as it has been really difficult to maintain a very positive outlook since my husband's cancer diagnosis. This weekend he decided to review the Landmark Forum, an adult educational seminar, to help get himself into a better frame of mind before starting chemotherapy tomorrow. I stayed home so I could process massive amounts of produce through the blender and juicer for him to take with him for the weekend. Shopping and chopping vegetables have been the hallmarks of my weekend until last night. The social activity was very welcome.
Joseph has been struggling with the 100% raw diet. When I realize what he instantly changed in his dietary intake, it is a wonder he has been able to function! He has had caffeine withdrawal, lots of emotional detoxing, all kinds of physical sensations, and cravings galore. The poor man has really given it his best and has finally decided that he needs to go back to a transitional diet. I agree, but we are still trying to sort out just what he needs to be eating right now. We have added some fish and chicken back into his fare along with brown rice, quinoa, lentils and some beans. I believe that having these cooked foods will make things much easier for him. He has already given up coffee, processed starches, refined sugars, all red meat, eggs, and dairy. That is a huge change already.
Last night Diana's mother gave me a well-worn copy of A Cancer Therapy by Max Gerson, M.D. I have been listening to tapes about his treatments and reading his daughter Charlotte's book Healing, The Gerson Way. Much of it seems really radical, especially to someone coming from a standard American diet, but to me, a lot of it seems quite logical. What Joseph has implemented that the book completely supports is juicing. In the interest of not busting the budget completely, we have limited the juices to one quart a day for each of us. It is having a very positive effect on me and I know that at some level, it is healing Joseph. We just don't have the evidence for it yet.
Another healing modality that we have brought back into our lives is the work that Aniel Love and Fred Payne do. Both of these energy workers have been instrumental in restoring complete health and vitality back to Joseph. Again, we don't have the evidence of it, but it is making a huge difference in his daily outlook.
Cancer seems to demand that it's victims take a long, hard look at themselves and how they have been living their lives. It goes from the inside out and back again. We have had so many people tell us of various things to do that it is hard to research every one of them. But the consistent theme among them all is having a positive mental outlook. At this point I can report that we are doing everything we can. I pray it is enough.
8 comments:
I like your blog! I am in a Landmark course now. I connect in other ways and areas you have interests in as well. I focus on personal development, giving back and charity.
I hope you find out what works for Joeseph's diet.
Best regards,
Tom Bailey
I'm sure that patient and careful transition is exactly what is required for your husband. He can't possibly go through so many radical changes all at once without losing his moorings completely, I'll bet. It might make him feel like he's being doubly punished to lose not only his health, but also now his freedom to choose food as his comfort and familiar reward. It's all new and strange to him--everything--and will take lots and lots of time. I don't envy you, as I am not by nature a patient person. I'll continue to check in and keep positive thoughts for you.
I am so sorry, Karen! I just now found out about Joseph. Know that both Bob and I are keeping you in our thoughts in love and light.
(((HUGS)))
Sneaking by to say Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. I hope 2010 is one of healing and happiness for you both. Take care...of each other!
I'm so happy we could enjoy a raw meal together at a useful time, Karen. You and Joseph are heros!!
I've enjoyed reading your blog this morning, GREAT, and may put powerballs at the top of my resolutions list in January.
Love, Risa
I have been quite lax in my responses, but I still appreciate hearing from everyone.
Tom...stop by any time. I am a Landmark graduate from way back when. Welcome to my roller coaster!
Nance, I haven't told you this, but your words have been my rock for a while now. NEVER stop writing...you serve us all. I appreciate you more than you will ever know. The holiday greeting was so thoughtful. You are great!
Hi Keely! I miss your sunshine personality. You and Bob have been a constant source of amusement for me on FB. Thank you for the love and concern.
Risa! Your unwavering support has launched some wonderful things for us. I am looking forward to working with you in the near future. (Talk to Liz!) I know you, no kidding, have my back. You are a true angel. Thanks for being there for Joseph and me.
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I will pray for Joseph. May the Lord bless both of you; may He also heal Joseph, bring comfort and peace in His heart.
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